this is like computer dating i imagine

**paisley** · 08-10-2012, 10:56 AM

I have a son who thinks computer dating is the way to go but seldom finds any interesting and sane dates.
A large part of my motivation for joining this site was to investigate the interest of citizens in my area in communicating with an eye towards joining energy towards the changes we see on their way.
I have responded to two; Lenoir and Boone NC members with a simple hello, and nothing much beyond that aside from requesting further communications. Answer came there none. Perhaps this is like computer dating.

**myakka** · 08-10-2012, 01:30 PM

I don't know for sure Pailsey, but I think this site gives pretty good measure. I have learned quite a bit from some of the threads, including ones where I was corrected on things I thought I knew. (case in point, Dalewick "corrected" something I was wrong about concerning trapping laws)
I wouldn't be too surprized that the 2 folks you tried to speak directly to didn't respond. Consider that everyone has different comfort levels concerning giving out their information, and they really don't know who you are.
Maybe if you were more active for a while, and the other folks on here got a feel for who you are, then they might respond, but even then, maybe not, just based on who THEY are, not on you.

I will make a comparrison of two of our "members" with no offense intended:

1. "RICH" (hope you don't mind me using you Rich) He has been on here a long time, has been involved in many discussions, and I think right now I have a feel for who he is based on the opinions he has offered, and the information he has given. Now this might or might not be accurate, but it is an impression.
2. "Fred" Signed up last week, (not really, made him up) entered a "hello" post, and offered one joke on a thread.
I have no Idea of who Fred is really.

Between the two, if Rich pm'd me I would respond, if "Fred" did, I wouldn't, even if he lived near me. Especially if he lived near me.

I would suggest that you have some patience. It may be that the two folks you pm'd are very private, even paranoid (I am a little)
Or if may be that they haven't decided who you are yet, (you have only posted 6 times or so,) or it just may be that they have been on vacation or something like that.

Stick in there with us a while, participate, and I am sure you will develop some relationships.
I know there are three folks on here that I have sent my private information to already based on mutual interests and the friendship that has developed.

**Bue** · 08-10-2012, 09:26 PM

I think by nature we preppers are kinda geared toward operational security. We're here because we have people we care about and intend to protect and take care of. I'm certain there are MANY fine people here but this is the internet. I'd like to get together with some folks from here. There has been talk of a conference type get together but it takes time.

**Mortblanc** · 08-10-2012, 11:01 PM

I belong to two internet forums that have annual gatherings. After we meet FTF many of us from the same region stay incontact.

Getting too chummy with a new member on any forum is not a good idea and neither is making yourself available for the predators that stalk cyberspace.

**Morgan101** · 08-14-2012, 11:56 PM

Paisley: I definitely agree with Bue on this one. Most of us are probably very guarded by nature, and not likely to answer a new pm. We keep our preps to ourselves, and share info and helpful hints. Being approached by a stranger we would be reluctant to respond.

You could also check in the " Experience " section (look at the top bar next to Forum) to see if the people you tried to contact are even active on the site. They may have gone a different direction, and are no longer participating. Keep participating, and maybe people will be more willing to respond.